Life through a lens

Looks subconsciously determine how a person is perceived. This is more so in the case of women, who are judged by their appearances.  Be it their choice of clothes or length of hair. Everything becomes a topic of intense scrutiny by peers, friends colleagues and most surprisingly family. 

Believe it or not, a survey conducted by Nihar Naturals #IAmCapable reveals that:

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a. 69% of men agree that their judgment of women is based on their looks.

b. 64% of women agree that the judgments passed on them have affected their ability to reach their true potential.

c. 70%of women agree that majority of judgments on women are from family members or friends rather than strangers.

d. 72% of women agree that working women face more judgments on their looks or their clothes than housewives.

Now what happens when a girl or a woman wears glasses because she actually needs them and doesn’t want to subject her eyes to the torture of lenses or laser treatment? Well she’d better develop a thick skin early on in life, and learn to deal smartly with the endless jibes from those who live life without rose-tinted glasses.

It all starts when a little girl requires glasses to aid her eyesight. “Hai! Iskey shaadi kaisey hogi?”, starts the sloganeering of the so called well wishing, know it all brigade! Most men even admit to shying away from dating women with glasses because they are perceived as unattractive and “Oh my! What if she is more intelligent than me?” is one of the common refrains.

Despite the fact that sporting snazzy glasses became a fashion fad a few years ago, when it comes to a woman’s appearance just the act of wearing glasses transforms you into a bit of a nerd or cold and authoritative depending upon the type of glasses you choose.

While glasses make you look intelligent and lend a serious air to your persona at the career front acting as a plus, the same does not hold true when you step out into the matrimonial market. It’s the mothers of most men who will question you, “Beti lenses nahi pehenti or why don’t you try laser treatment beta?”

The best way to deal with such incidents is to give a sweet smile and laugh them off politely. Surely a person who judges you by your looks automatically reveals his or her depth of thinking and personality. This should be more than enough for you to decide whether your precious time and abilities should be wasted in their presence for a second more! For dear girl you know what you're capable of and as they say- "True strength lies in humility "

I’m breaking stereotypes based on appearance by sharing my experience for the #IAmCapable activity at BlogAdda in association with Nihar Naturals.


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